‘I Believe I Can’: The Importance of Self-Discipline, Habit, and Perseverance

Life’s best outcomes may (for many) be success and happiness, but the journey to its attainment is not an easy road. Instead, the road to success may require some level of self-discipline, perseverance, and faith.

So what does traditional wisdom teach us about success? And can discipline also lead to self-discovery?

Tales From The Past

In many traditional stories, having the “faith to persist” and the “will of steel” have often presented themselves and taught readers to “look within” to find the determination to tackle life’s challenges. Such stories have also taught people to remember who they are and what is really important to them.

There is such a story called A Tale of Devotion, which depicts a predestined relationship of grace and loyalty between a man called Xue Rengui (who was born into an impoverished family), and a woman called Wang Baochuan (who was brought up in an aristocratic family).

For this piece, we will call Xue Rengui “Sergie.” And call Wang Baochuan “Wenda.”

At the time of marriageable age, Wenda wanted to toss an embroidered marriage ball (similar to a bride tossing up her bouquet). In ancient China, such an event was believed to be arranged by heaven and fate would determine who a person was to marry.

When the ball was caught by Sergie, Wenda’s father was enraged as he was not pleased to have someone of a lower rank marry into his family. So he blatantly dismissed this arrangement. But Wenda insisted on this arrangement as she had also fallen for Sergie’s righteous and heroic look. Moreover, Wenda had dreamed of a similar-looking man in an earlier dream.

Wenda’s father was very annoyed by the incident and asked her to choose between the marriage or her parents, but Wenda tearfully chose Sergie. Thus, her father severed all ties and dismissed Wenda as his daughter on the spot.

As Wenda decided to live with Sergie, she had pawned off her jewellery in exchange for money to live off and then followed him to his home—a cave-dwelling.

Depiction of a cave (Credit: Unsplash.com)

After marriage, Sergie felt uneasy having his wife suffer and live in poverty. As a result, he developed a strong sense of manly responsibility and strong faith to go out and earn a name for himself.

From this story so far, having a sense of responsibility is already the first step to self-discipline and willpower. 

Usually, we need something to trigger the change for the better—a boost in courage and determination. So how would you find this feeling? Perhaps some reflecting, and looking within for what you really want. Do you want to change yourself? Why do you want to change? What makes it important to you?

Never Giving in to External Pressure

No one knew that Wenda and Sergie’s separation would last 18 years. Living alone as a woman without her husband by her side in ancient China would mean that they would have to suffer more. 

One type of suffering would be the lack of food and the pain of being separated from a loved one. During the 18 years, Wenda would live off of wild vegetables but even having so little, she would still share her home and food with other beggars.

Wild eatable mushrooms (Credit: Unsplash.com)

One day Wenda’s father came looking for her, hoping she would go back home with him and forget about Sergie by choosing another husband so she can live a better life. However, Wenda refused, saying that she had promised her husband to be loyal and will wait for his return. 

There were also other experiences where a man would offer her to be his concubine if she had slept with him, while another who would attempt to molest her. Still, Wenda managed to avoid these problems and maintained being a noble and virtuous woman.

Meanwhile, Sergie did his best to carry on his mission for what he set out to do. He never attempted to meet other women and always stayed faithful. As a soldier, he also never gave in. Eventually, he worked his way up, became a general and when he returned he was awarded the title of Duke for his outstanding military merit.

At the end of the story, Sergie “Rengui” and Wenda “Baochuan” reunited and lived happily thereafter.

A couple’s reunion (Credit: Unsplash.com)

It is thus a lesson of perseverance, and faith that also tests the spirit of how sure-footed one truly is. It is about sticking to the plan that was initiated at the beginning and never forgetting even for a second how important the reason behind it was. In this way, one will lead a righteous path.

The Magical Tool: Habits

Like Plato once wrote, “The first and greeted victory is to conquer yourself”, and what a powerful tool it is to employ, creating a good habit of self-discipline and perseverance helps with the conquest and longevity of happiness and success.

When a habit becomes a daily routine, like going to the gym, getting enough sleep, meditating, and cleaning, we no longer have to force ourselves to perform some conscious and often painful task. We simply do it.

Then if that action becomes a part of us, we will naturally reap what we sow.

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It is thus working the mind, the mental aspect, to form the ability to stay firm and unwavering in one’s belief and moral standards for one to genuinely appreciate and holistically upgrade, because life is never futile—it all depends on your mind and how you look at things—i.e. What perspective and mentality do you really have? And are you happy with it being the person you are? If not, do you have the courage to spark some change?

Sometimes we will struggle and experience burnout but it is all part of life after all. In fact, the experience itself allows one to self-reflect, advance, and build a stronger foundation for the next time; You have nevertheless improved your willpower, strength, courage, and faith. 

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Through hardships, we build character, which in turn allows us to elevate our minds and improve spiritually. One way to improve spiritually is through the practice of Falun Dafa. Learn more about 5 Reasons why Falun Gong (Falun Dafa) is great!

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